By Steve Horan, PositiveSports.net
In 1998 Daniel Goleman published a groundbreaking article in Harvard Business Review titled 'What Makes Leader?' In answering the title question, Dr. Goleman made the case that:
IQ and technical skills are important, but emotional intelligence is the sine qua non of leadership.
The original article (available here) was recently re-published in the Harvard Business Review's OnPoint periodical, and it still resonates. And what is true for leaders in general is just as true for coaches as leaders of young athletes.
The Five Core EI Skills
As summarized in the article, what distinguishes great leaders from merely good ones is emotional intelligence (EI). EI includes a group of five skills that enable the best leaders to maximize their own and their followers' performance. The EI skills are:
- Self-awareness - knowing one's strengths, weaknesses, drives, values, and impact on others
- Self-regulation - controlling or redirecting disruptive impulses and moods
- Motivation - relishing achievement for its own sake
- Empathy - understanding other people's emotional makeup
- Social skill - building rapport with others to move them in desired directions.
EI Skills Applied to Coaching
As leaders of young athletes, it stands to reason that coaches can elevate their impact by developing strong emotional intelligence skills. A good way to start is to do a quick self-assessment of our own EI skills, and pick one to work on starting now. Here is a five-question self-assessment:
- Q1. (Self Awareness) Do I have a good idea of my strengths, weaknesses, drives, values, and impact on my athletes?
- Q2. (Self Regulation) How adept am I at controlling or redirecting my disruptive impulses and moods when I am involved in coaching?
- Q3. (Motivation) Why do I coach? How much am I motivated by winning as compared to enjoying he coaching experience for its own sake? Do I have the right balance?
- Q4. (Empathy) How well do I understand the emotional makeup and needs of my athletes? Do I take this into account in my relationships with my athletes?
- Q5. (Social Skill) Do I have a positive rapport with my athletes? Am I able to move them in desired directions?
Our answers to these questions can give us solid insight into our emotional intelligence as a coach. As with any skill set, perfection is not an option. The good news, as Dr. Goleman notes, is that we are each born with certain levels of EI skills, but we can strengthen these abilities through persistence, practice, and feedback from those around us. Each of us has to decide for ourself whether EI skills are important enough to develop. But the research is clear: leaders (including coaches) with strong EI skills are better able to maximize their followers' performance.
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